Darken with kindness.
They have come gladly out of the willows
To welcome my friend and me.
We step over the barbed wire into the pasture
Where they have been grazing all day, alone.
They ripple tensely, they can hardly contain their happiness
That we have come.
They bow shyly as wet swans. They love each other.
There is no loneliness like theirs.
At home once more, they begin munching the young tufts of spring in the darkness.
I would like to hold the slenderer one in my arms,
For she has walked over to me
And nuzzled my left hand.
She is black and white,
Her mane falls wild on her forehead,
And the light breeze moves me to caress her long ear
That is delicate as the skin over a girl’s wrist.
Suddenly I realize
That if I stepped out of my body I would break
Into blossom.

A wonderful article that nudges me further down a path I was already exploring.

In barely one generation we’ve moved from exulting in the time-saving devices that have so expanded our lives to trying to get away from them — often in order to make more time. The more ways we have to connect, the more many of us seem desperate to unplug. Like teenagers, we appear to have gone from knowing nothing about the world to knowing too much all but overnight.

Instead of being more in control, we are less in control – especially of our time.

In my own case, I turn to eccentric and often extreme measures to try to keep my sanity and ensure that I have time to do nothing at all (which is the only time when I can see what I should be doing the rest of the time). I’ve yet to use a cellphone and I’ve never Tweeted or entered Facebook. I try not to go online till my day’s writing is finished, and I moved from Manhattan to rural Japan in part so I could more easily survive for long stretches entirely on foot, and every trip to the movies would be an event. None of this is a matter of principle or asceticism; it’s just pure selfishness. Nothing makes me feel better — calmer, clearer and happier — than being in one place, absorbed in a book, a conversation, a piece of music. It’s actually something deeper than mere happiness: it’s joy, which the monk David Steindl-Rast describes as “that kind of happiness that doesn’t depend on what happens.”

Disconnecting is self-preservation, it’s joy creation and as he mentions earlier in the article, it puts you back in touch with your creativity. [caption id="attachment_4393" align="alignnone" width="650"] This picture was included with Pico’s article ((Photo credit: Vivienne Flesher)). It’s particularly suitable because in the past week, I spent time searching for, and finding, seashells on a beach with my boys. It was, without a doubt, the best part of the past year.[/caption]

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People who change the world for the better should live to be a 100. Rest in peace, Steve Jobs. Thank you for everything. You changed my life. The world will miss you.

There's a video doing the rounds of a young woman on the Metro North train who gets into a verbal altercation with the conductor ((She happens to be South Asian, but that has little to do with this post.)). She keeps bringing up how "well-educated" she is. Her behavior is disgusting and despicable. Education has nothing to do with classy behavior. Neither does money. We've all seen enough examples of that. BUT - what's happened to her is also unacceptable. Her name has been made mud across the internet, people have posted her resume, there's a Facebook page in her name where people are calling her a c**t. This stuff never goes away - ever. In 20 years it will still be there when you Google her name ((For that reason, I will not post any links to the video or any articles.)). Is it a violation of her privacy to take video of her without her knowledge even though it's a public place? I am not sure, but the person who took and posted the video is equally vile and despicable and has taken an unpleasant and disgusting situation and potentially ruined her life. That's not fair punishment. Why is there no repercussions to that person? He/she was being surreptitious - it's not like he/she was bold and brave - the video was taken on the sly. This is the downside of videos on cell phones and instant uploads. The person probably posted it without thinking through the consequences. And now, there is no going back. A sad situation, made sadder. Two wrongs were done here - let's be very clear about that.

If you read this blog, you know that I rarely, if ever, blog about food. Living in New York, it easy to eat at great restaurants and I manage to do that every once in a while. But at the core, I'm a reluctant cook.
If there was ever going to be a site that could change that, however, it would be Yummly ((Full disclosure: Yummly is founded by ex-eBay friends and colleagues and I've been aware of it since it was a sparkling little PowerPoint presentation in the founders' hands)). Billed as having "Every Recipe in the World", it is incredibly well-organized and just... beautiful. I love beautiful sites - they make you feel good. When you do a search for a recipe, the search results are well organized and each recipe is shown with a star rating, and how long it will take you to make it. For the reluctant, like me, this is excellent - it's always a tradeoff between time it will take and yummyness. And yes, I am personally willing to trade off a bit of yummyness for oodles of time saved. Each recipe is also ranked by flavor - Salty, Savory, Sour Bitter and Sweet. And a slider on the right side lets you specify if you want more and less and shows you options that fit your requirements. All this to say - it's how a site should be designed. You want to find something? It has all the ways to help you refine and find exactly what you want. And since Yummly pulls in recipes from all over the web you will find a recipe for pretty much anything you want. Try it out and let me know what you think!